Morning After Thoughts

Shower in the morning is a place where good ideas spring. It became more clear what happened yesterday. I remembered what Vin DiCarlo said about high and low comprehension. In a club you want to keep things low comprehension. When I tried to tell that girls from Maplewood the story about sushi conveyor belt place in palisades mall, that kind of thing is high comprehension. At a club people aren't going to be able to picture in their head this restaurant with this bar that goes around with a conveyor belt. I also think I may have over did the small talk and didn't escalate right away. Vin DiCarlo and Mystery both said things happen fast in a club. Maybe what I needed to do was begin to isolate and said something like this music is really loud, lets go somewhere that we can talk.

I was thinking today about the whole warm dominance presence that Vin talks about in Dating Diablo and it seems very consist with the whole contrast principle. I heard on David DeAngelo's interviews that conflict is interesting whereas stereotypes are boring. IF your a jock but you also play an instrument, or maybe your a geek but you are really good at paintball or something. Contrast or things that seemingly conflict when put together in one person is more interesting. The idea of warm dominance is two seemingly confliciting traits. Someone who is both inviting and nonthreatening but also a leader and in control. Neil Strauss talks about the need for balance and I think this is why opposites and contrast is interesting. Just like the feminine and the masculine are a necessary duality. The warm balances our the dominance part of your personality and vice versa. It displays strength and sensitivity and the balance of these two qualities are what women look for in a man. They don't want a macho guy or a super nice guy. They want someone who has developed the two qualities in harmony with in himself.